I have my kids on a strict bedtime routine. I have them in that routine because I know that if I get them to bed, I can relax at night, and/or get the things done that I didn’t finish during the day. More times than not, it’s mostly just that I can sit down and relax. I don’t watch TV during the day because I can’t. I get too many interruptions, so it’s just not worth it to me to even try. So tonight, after I got the kids in bed, I REALLY wanted to watch this new show that i’ve been binge watching every other night, but instead I decided I should probably do some work on my blog.
I’ve noticed a common theme or pattern these past couple of weeks, and this happens every so often. I’ll hear about something and I won’t really pay much attention. I’ll hear about it again and I start to think, “hey I just heard someone talking about this.” Then i’ll SEE something about it and that’s when I stop and say, “Ok so maybe this is fate.” Kind of like that kid that keeps tapping you but you keep ignoring it because you’re preoccupied, and then finally you’re like, “OK WHAT?! WHAT IS IT?!” Or the dog that keeps nudging you and wimpering and you’re like, “what? what is it boy?” and follow him off wherever he goes, only to discover something amazing…or awful..but we’ll go with amazing. That’s what happens when “The universe” *eye roll* or OUR CREATOR is trying to lead us to something!
The common theme that i’ve been encountering is, “Choice and the Power of Choosing.” We have a choice in EVERY single thing we do! We have choices in important things, like whether we choose to send our kids to public school or keep them home and school them. But we also have choices in things that aren’t so important. Like what brand of toilet paper we buy. (Sam’s Club POM brand is the best by the way!) So with these choices, it’s so easy to come up with excuses as to WHY we didn’t CHOOSE to make a better CHOICE!
For instance…. I used to go out to lunch almost EVERY DAY during the week. Then I would come home and it would be nap time for the kids, so I would usually…. take a nap with them! If I wasn’t napping with them, I was sitting on my phone scrolling through facebook because well… I deserve this quiet time, right? Then, When the kids woke up, it was time to go get the oldest from school. When we got back, it was snack time, and then play time, and then dinner time. Guess what got ignored the whole day? THE HOUSE WORK! How many times did I tell my husband, “I just can’t keep this house clean! it’s impossible!” All the while, not even realizing that I was doing this to myself. I was asking for it. I was making the choice to say, “No”, to getting house work done, because I was saying, “Yes”, to other things. It’s so easy make our bad choices out to be something we have no control over. But bad choices in sheep’s clothing are still BAD.
It’s all about your priorities. What do YOU prioritize?
I asked a friend for some helpful mom advice to feature on my blog. I was going to do a whole article on the best advice ‘for’ moms ‘from’ moms. And I still may do that. But even her advice, fit perfectly with this theme of choosing! She texted me today and said, and I quote,
“Invest in good quality comfy underwear. It’s really hard to be a good mom when your panties are always in a bunch.”
I was really confused at first and thinking, “does she know my underwear is too big?”
but then she went on to say,
“Don’t self sabatoge / Don’t be your own worst enemy. – One of the things I want the most is to not yell at my kids! (I think its like goal numero uno for all moms) I’ve figured out that I yell the most when I sabatoge myself. When I don’t allow enough time to get out the door, when I have too many things going on at one time, when I stayed up too late binge watching Gilmore Girls (again), when I haven’t taken some time for myself in a while, and when my expectations are too high. When I feel myself starting to turn into crazy mommy now, I stop to think how I got to that point and try to fix it.”
Can I get an Amen, y’all? I mean if that isn’t mom advice gold, I don’t know what is!
We used to live out in the country and I had a bad habit of leaving a full trash bag out on the porch, with the intentions of taking it out to the trash can in the garage later. But later rarely ever came. Usually the raccoons got into the garbage, decorating my porch with banana peels and coffee grounds, pieces of paper towel… and sometimes they even got a little fancy and tore up used diapers. Most of the time I would walk out in the morning to find my newly decorated porch, but one night I caught them red handed! I ran and got the kids’ nerf gun out to shoot at them because I was so mad that they were already getting into it! See it’s the raccoons fault for getting into the trash, it’s not my fault for leaving it out there. I DIDN’T CHOOSE THIS! Oh wait… Nerf guns don’t scare them away by the way. They just rub their stupid hands together and look at you like, “I just came for some trash talk!”
Jim Gaffigan audience voice, “why did she say that….raccoons can’t talk… thats not funny at all..”
My point is that even in the smallest choices we make, there is a cause and effect that happens. If I wouldn’t have left the trash out, the raccoons wouldn’t have gotten to it. If I would’ve chose to sleep instead of watch shows until late, I wouldn’t be up in a bad mood, angry at my kids for being bright eyed and bushy tailed.
Every single decision we make is a choice.
Mom’s… Let’s start living with intent! Whatever that intent may be… stop saying and START DOING. What good is it to say one thing but to do the opposite? It’s like walking in quick sand. Choose to make good choices! The word “bara'” in hebrew translates to choose. The definition literally means “to create”. We are creating paths with our choices. So let’s create wise ones!