I never thought at 250 pounds, I would be writing an advice column for others on how to lose weight. I’ve been overweight my whole life, and I’ve always made excuses on why I couldn’t lose weight, until recently. Since I’ve had SOME success, I wanted to share it with those of you who also may be struggling and looking for a place to start.
One thing about weight loss success stories is that they are often a “before and after” of the person, instead of getting to follow them along their journey to see just how long it took them to get to where they are at the end. I have lost about 40 pounds, but I have a long way to go. So I figure starting late with this blog is better than never! There’s so much more involved in dieting than just dieting. It’s a mind transformation as much as a body transformation. There’s so much more that you’ll change, and that will change you, besides your eating habits and exercise. I have been on my journey for a year now in July. But I still struggle daily. I have good weeks and bad weeks. Before any more time passed by, I wanted to share my journey with you so that you will hopefully decide to start with me!
So here’s me at my highest weight – 286 pounds
What’s kind of funny about these pictures is that I had to dig through my facebook for them. I found a front,
side, and back view of myself and it was totally candid! This was at a youth camp in 2012 that I was helping
out with. I don’t remember who took these pictures, but I remember after seeing them, it was like looking
into a fun house mirror except it wasn’t fun at all. I had no idea that I had gotten that big! I didn’t even take
action at that time though. Instead I went home and did what I always did. Ignored the fact that I was slowly
This was on a float trip in 2016. As much as I hate this picture, i’m so thankful that I have it just for reference. Weight loss is one of the hardest things that ANYONE could ever do, and it’s no different for me. It takes so much discipline and determination, but it will bring you so much joy if you can MEET YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE and find a starting point. What that means is, STOP COMPARING YOURSELF to anyone else in the world who has weight to lose. “Oh well they aren’t as big as I am.” “Well they don’t have four kids like I do. It’s easier for them.” “I don’t have time like that person does.” Yes you do. If you’re reading this, YOU HAVE TIME. You just don’t choose to spend it wisely! You can find 30 MINUTES in a day to focus on yourself. Focusing on FOLLOWING THROUGH and BEING CONSISTENT with diet and exercise, rather than obsessing over the scale was a huge part of being successful for me. Seriously, take your scale to someone’s house or trash it. Ask your kids to hide it from you. You are more than a number, and this journey is so much more than a number. I have only lost 36 pounds in almost a year of consistently working out with a group. They are intense workouts. BUT I’ve lost 6 dress sizes! I’ve gained a lot of muscle and that accounts for the fact that the scale doesn’t move as fast as I think it should. I don’t say these things to brag on myself. I say this because it took me so long to learn these concepts, and I wish I would’ve learned so much sooner. So i’m trying to save you some time here!
After a few months into my journey, I took some comparison pics. Here are the results.
Going off of what I said earlier, “Meeting myself where I was,” meant that I couldn’t bare to even look at myself in the mirror anymore. I hated what I saw, and I wasn’t used to hating myself. I finally decided that I should stop being a big baby. No one was going to change my body except for me.
Starting something was hard because I had failed so many times before, and my own husband didn’t even believe in me. But I stayed quiet about what I was doing. I didn’t announce it on Facebook. I didn’t tell my friends. I didn’t tell my husband. I just FOCUSED on MYSELF. Shift your focus to making small changes. Maybe for you that means quitting your sugary coffee every morning and switching to coffee with stevia. Maybe it means that you give up soda. If you do, just be prepared. DON’T SET YOURSELF UP FOR FAILURE. Some people can quit things cold-turkey, but if you’re like me, self-control is an issue, and old habits die hard. So grab some Zevia’s to get you through the first week or so of no more soda. If you don’t know what Zevia is, it’s a stevia sweetened soda. They are kind of expensive but they taste decent. It’s a great alternative to regular soda.
Maybe, “small changes” is even smaller for you. You might not be ready at all to change eating habits. Thats okay! You do what YOU can. Walking to the mailbox every day is a start for some people. But small changes are still changes and they DO count!
Also, pick a diet plan that’s realistic for you. That plan for me was a low carb diet. I knew I could have all the fats I wanted and I could stay FULL. I knew I could go to McDonald’s and eat McDoubles, I just had to remove the bread. Convenience was the most important for me, because I am a mom of four, and I do JUST NEED TO STOP AT MCDONALD’S FOR MY SANITY ONCE IN A WHILE! Hello, PlayPlace! Once you establish that you CAN stick to something, you can really try anything from there. It might take you a bit to find something you like, but there are enjoyable diets out there. I highly recommend the Trim Healthy Mama plan. You can Find it here.
260 lbs – 245 lbsThis was me after a 2 week THM “Fuel Cycle”. It was HARD. I did it when I was about 6 months into my journey. I would’ve failed if I would’ve started out with something that hard in the beginning. So I don’t recommend this for beginners. Even in the book, it says not to do this until you have followed the plan for a few months and have hit a stall. BUT it worked tremendously. There’s a 15 pound difference in these pics. 15 pounds in two weeks is not realistic at all and I was shocked by the results. I did work REALLY hard for it. I did end up gaining back about 10 pounds because I celebrated for like a month.
*The second picture is blurry because the bathroom was fogged up and the camera lens had condensation on it. My 7-year-old is usually who takes my pictures, so I didn’t realize it until it was too late.
I used to be an “all or nothing” type of person and that is totally toxic to the journey of losing weight. If I chose to take my kids to McDonald’s to eat lunch, I would eat about 2 McDoubles, fries, a coke,and some of their leftover chicken nuggets. So since I did SO BAD at lunch, I would think that doing any kind of exercise was just pointless. “Well, I already blew it. Might as well skip the gym and eat junk for dinner too.” I know some of you do it too! No. Don’t do that. That is a horrible way of thinking. Because one binge day will turn into two, and two into three, and before you know it, the whole week has gone by and you’ve binge ate it away. Trust me on this one, I DID IT FOR YEARS. I know what i’m talking about. I could talk to you all day on what a mental game this is.
My first goal when I started working out, was to be able to do an unmodified Burpee. Those suckers are much harder than they look! You can find that video on My Instagram. The videos are in backwards order, so just scroll to the right to find my first burpee video. It should be two over from the one that the link takes you to.
I will update this page as my journey continues, so check back often! Also, i’m obviously not a pro or anything, but I would love to answer any questions you might have and hopefully help you along the way!